I started living in the same house as my boyfriend.
In a "Yup this is permanent, there's no getting rid of me now!" kind of way.
And a friend asked me, what's it like living with him?
My answer was: It's fun.
Said boyfriend turned to me last night, as we settled on the couch with our hearty, nutritious dinner of Kentucky fried chicken, and said something like "I feel like I should apologise for being really boring."
I actually laughed IN HIS FACE and said "Are you fucking kidding?"
I never thought living with a partner would be like this. I imagined cleaning rosters, nagging about laundry, sitting in the background with my head in my hands while he or she whiled away hours in front of a playstation game.
But it's nothing like that! Thank God!
Here he is, posing for me before getting dressed for work.
I suppose his insecurity about the "fun-ness" of our life together comes from the fact he's 23 years my senior.
But we started off as friends, the romance followed, and whether he's hauling my drunk ass home from a wild party or chilling in front of the TV with my feet in his lap, it's ALL GOOD.
Here's a few things I think makes our relationship awesome:
- We appreciate each other. We share housework, cooking duties and more without bitching about who's turn it is, and if I clean something he thanks me, and if he does a job I didn't fancy doing (like cleaning the bath, eurgh) then I thank him. We don't do it for the thanks, but it makes me feel like what I do is noted and appreciated and it makes me feel good.
- We don't do the washing up every night. Along with most household chores, we don't keep tabs on when shit gets done, and I think it takes a lot of pressure off of everyday living. So what if the dishes sit around for a day or two? Do them when they need doing. There's enough to worry about without stressing over stupid shit like washing a few cups.
- If one of us has an issue, instead of getting mad or moody, we talk. Yes, we sit down and have a conversation about it until a solution is found. Communication is key. Yelling and throwing stuff gets you nowhere, and no-one wants to live with bad vibes.
The other night, we were at a friend's house party, and fun was had, but when we came home, we both got into bed with our books, and as we sat quietly reading I got a definite sense of peace.
It's a peace I've been searching for my whole life.
My home life is a perfect balance between exciting and calm, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I hope you feel the same about yours. x
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